Morning folks, this podcast. I want to call. Are you afraid of being alone. We've all experienced this throughout our lives, because we've been told
since the womb, that we were to be with somebody. We start off being in
a family we become dependent on that family as a child to sustain our
life. And that's the way. Nature is. And then as we get older we move on
to the home, but that point we've been told that you're now to raise a
family or to get a wife or a husband, and to raise a family.
And then you're to raise those children so they become better than you.
Ideally, and life goes on, it kind of stops at that point. Once the
children are out of the house. Now what do mom and dad do they look at
each other and go, huh. Who are you, but the point I'm trying to make is
we've been told our entire lives we've been told in high school, we've
been told in grade school have been told as children.
Everything we do in this world. In the ideal world, is to have a partner
a spouse to do it with. Now I'm not advocating that Trump, don't get me
wrong here. I'm not advocating that it's wrong. But I know many people
including myself, who have pretty much spent 40 plus years of their
lives, not being alone, not knowing who I was as a person.
Wondering always who I was, what was I here for, what did I really want.
And it was hard when it got to a point when I got divorced. And I had
five or six other people in my lives over over 10 or 15 year period.
And I finally turned about 16 years old. And at that point, I was truly
on my own, by myself. It was very, very, I hate to use the word scary,
but it was scary because I pretty much had never ever experienced
anything like that. And this is probably commensurate with the majority
of the people in the world today. People that are alone are logged on as
odd strange. Why didn't he or she ever get a husband or a wife, there
must be something wrong with them.
And inevitably there's really nothing wrong with them. This is how they
like to live their lives. I truly believe that everybody at some point
in their lives should understand who they are. And the only way, or the
easiest way to do it is to be alone.
So only person that you're taking care of is yourself.
Yet, you have no other responsibilities at this time it's just you. Your
inner thoughts and your inner being, you have time to sit and think
about who you are and what you are. I think everybody deserves a chance
to do this. A lot of people probably will disagree with me.
And there's been a lot of people who've had 70 years of good marriage
and they've gone on together. God bless them. I think that's good. But I
also think, and wonder if those people knew themselves, or if they were
just so enamored with being married for so long, or having a partner in
their life that they know new other, I'll try it again. They did not
know any other way .So this was second nature to them.
And they just went on with life. So it makes me wonder why don't people
try this. Well, because they've been told their whole lives that people
that are alone, there's something wrong with them. They're a little bit
odd.That one was never married. Ooh, something must be up they might, they must not be able to get along with people.
You know it has nothing to do with that. And then when as you get older,
society says Well, here's the old adage, quote unquote. Do you want to
die alone.
It's a scary thought no one wants to do that, you know, nobody wants to
do that. But in the end, when we pass. Are we not truly all. At that
point, we're alone, but then immediately after we're back with our
family. So we're never really alone. Even if there's not a partner in
your life at that time. We're really never, ever, alone, and we never
ever will be alone.
That's what people have to understand. I don't need that other person to
figure out who I am and to define my life. I want to know who I am, and
I wanted to find my life.
And again, like I said initially, this is, this is tough because I know
there's a lot of happy people that have been married their entire lives
and you know God bless them good for them. But if you're not one of
those people, and you want to find out who you are as a person. Take the
time be alone.
And it'll take a long time especially when you get up into my age, it'll
take many many years of being alone for you to start finding out what
makes you tick.
What makes you happy, what truly makes you happy, because that's why we're here to be happy.
So, are you afraid of being alone. If you say yes, figure out why you're saying yes. If you are alone.
Now's the perfect time. This is a time set aside for you to define you. Use it wisely.
Use it wisely.
Hey, everybody. Welcome back.
Today's video I want to talk about something that is important to me all these remarks.
But I want you to really really think about it. It's called Are you afraid of being alone?
We've all been raised to believe how life works.
You
start off as a youngster you finish high school, you go to college, you
get a boyfriend or girlfriend you get married. You have kids, you have a
family life goes on. I
never said your child to go through high school and go through college. And you go through life alone.
It's never addressed. It's a matter of fact.
You
put nine people or 10 people down and ask him what you know if you have
a person that's ever been married, is that the next person that has
been married? What are your first thoughts going to be?
There must be something wrong with that person has never been married.
It must be hard. To get love.
I didn't ever get married.
Well,
my question is, did they ever have to and who are we to judge and
believe that there must be something rather than the reasons we've been
taught that our whole lives since we mentioned child?
Excuse me,
and I think it's even worse for girls and I do feel the pain there that
their whole life is you have to have a husband, you have to be married.
Because if you're single, there's something wrong with you. There's a
reason why you're seeing maybe you would like to be single.
Getting a little bit off the beaten path here Are you afraid to being alone?
You're always told you ought to die alone. Do you want to be alone? Well, I got some news for you folks.
If you really think about it, we all die.
We're not taking anybody with us. when our time comes to pass. We're gonna be there by ourselves, just to be us.
That's
it folks. No one's holding your hand and through the light through
Valhalla, whatever you want to say no one's gonna be there.
It's going to use you.
And at that point, it behooves you to understand who you are.
If you've spent your entire life being with someone
you may not understand.
I'm at a point in my life where I finally got some time to me.
And I'm really beginning to understand myself. I'm not afraid to be alone. Matter of fact, I have found my best friend.
It's not somebody outside of me. It is my best for instability my whole life.
That was me and the ups and the downs of goods today. It's not always stay there. Other friends exterior to me come and go.
And that's to be expected. On my best friend.
My best friend is always here with no smoking. No, I'll go on in this journey with that will never leave.
But you need to find that best friend. And if you are with someone all the time.
You don't have time for you.
You're
always giving to somebody else you're always providing to somebody
else. You're always giving somebody else's security blanket.
I
asked you bring this security blanket. conquer that fear of being alone.
I've been there I've had it. I've gone through the majority of my life,
being with someone and then all of a sudden, it's all gone and it's
just me. That's when you begin to find out who you are as a person. What
you like as a person. What you don't like as a person. How to say no.
How to take care of yourself. Is it selfish? No.
I
think we all deserve we all deserve the ability to and chance to find
out who we truly are. A lot of people will go through life not ever
knowing this.
I'm grateful I do so do you fear being alone? thinking to yourself? What if you were here by yourself? could you survive?
Could you go through a day?
Being alone with just you in your own skin?
Could you do it?
I
think as you progress through this and become more and more comfortable
with you and your skin. You start diving deeper and deeper into your
into the realms of you.
And you find out things about you that
will amaze you when you get the opportunity. Now I'm not advocating
everybody go through this very first time I do this is for the person
that is alone.
And is a little bit of fear in their heart. Like
God, where do I go and unwed mother just broke up however, you can go
find you. Because that's all you've got in this world to materialistic
masters out there that want the money in the greed the cars the houses
you've all heard. They're not taking your you're not taking your
external friends.
You're taking this friend with you.
Make friends with that person.
Understand that person. talk to that person.
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